Want to learn how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm? Then this article is for you.
In this article, I share with you how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your finger, how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your tongue (oral sex), and how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm during sexual intercourse.
I also share with you the best sex toys to use to make this orgasm a reality for your woman.
But that’s not all… you are also going to learn how to give a girl or a woman multiple clitoral orgasms.
Yes, you can give a girl or a woman more than one clitoral orgasm in a single session… and I show you how in this article.
With that said, let’s get started… on how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm and multiple clitoral orgasms.
First thing first
It’s a tendency for you to jump right into stimulating the clitoris in the hopes that your girl or woman orgasms.
Don’t do that.
…start out with foreplay
Girls and women usually need about 20 minutes of foreplay before their body is completely ready for clitoral stimulation (and even intercourse).
Without getting a girl or a woman warmed up to the act properly, her clitoris and genitals do not get aroused enough and ready for stimulation and penetration…
…plus, it will take longer for her to achieve an orgasm. [Read why having sex without foreplay can land you in trouble]
By spending enough time on foreplay, a girl gets more and more aroused, and blood rush to her genitals… adding extra sensation during the stimulation to give her much deeper pleasure, and consequently stronger orgasms.
So before you go down south, give your girl some heavy foreplay…
…kiss her passionately, caress her body, fondle her breast and nipples and other erogenous zones. (Hint: your girl or woman can have breast orgasms from just touching her boobs and nipples in the right way)
Spend at least 20 minutes on foreplay to get her so aroused and ready for the orgasms to come.
After the heavy foreplay, slowly and gently make your way down to her genitals… and make her orgasm with your finger or tongue, even before sex hits the bed. [Read ‘What Lesbians Can Teach Us about Sex’]
First, we look at how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your fingers. But before we do, here is a little nugget of knowledge for you…
About the clitoris
The clitoris (more accurately the clitoral head) is covered by a clitoral hood… which serves as a protective hood, protecting the clitoris from direct stimulation until the right moment. That moment when the girl or woman is amply aroused and directly stimulating the clitoris will feel pleasurable to her.
An exposed clitoris is extremely sensitive and touching it too soon might cause your woman some discomfort.
Even the slightest contact can turn a girl or a woman off.
So because of the heightened sensitivity of the clitoris, direct stimulation is best done at the peak of arousal and avoided immediately after orgasm.
Though, some women respond best if the clitoris itself is directly stimulated… others find this too intense and prefer stimulation of the clitoral hood as opposed to the clitoris itself. So know what your woman likes or prefers and do that.
But, as a general rule of thumb, avoid direct contact with the actual clitoris at the initial stage… not until your woman is amply aroused or closer to orgasm.
So this is what to do instead…
…you are going to rub or stimulate the clit via the clitoral hood and the front commissure. In other words, you are going to focus your stimulation on the clitoral hood and the front commissure.
(The clitoral hood is the folds of skin covering the clitoris… and the front commissure is the area immediately above the clitoral hood).
Rubbing the clitoral hood and the front commissure against the clitoris alone is enough to give your woman the excitement and pleasure she needs to achieve an orgasm.
With that said, let’s get started on how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your finger.
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How to Give a Girl or a Woman a Clitoral Orgasm With Your Finger
Here, you are going to stimulate the clitoris with your fingers until your woman reaches an orgasm.
I have already covered how to stimulate the clitoris with your fingers in detail, but I will reiterate it here:
Moisten your fingers with a lubricant
If you don’t have a lubricant around, just lick your finger.
Start out by rubbing the front commissure against the hidden clit in circles, or side to side, or up and down
Since the clitoris itself is extremely sensitive, the front commissure is a great place to start. So rub the front commissure against the clitoral shaft hidden underneath the front commissure in circles, side to side, or up and down. This will increase your woman excitement and consequently prime her for an orgasm.
Rub slowly and gently unless she asks otherwise
The rubbing should be slow and gentle at first. Use light pressure and at moderate speed, and then gradually increase the pressure and speed as she gets more aroused and closer to orgasm.
Run your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress the clitoral hood
Use two fingers, preferably, your middle and index fingers to move the clitoral hood up and down over the clitoris… gently squeezing the clitoris. The friction created when the hood rubs against the clitoris (or clitoral head) is a powerful source of stimulation and pleasure.
Now, come back to rubbing the front commissure against the clitoral shaft.
Again, focus your stimulation on the clitoral hood and the front commissure. This alone is enough to give your woman the excitement and pleasure she needs to achieve an orgasm.
All in all, what you are doing is rubbing the hidden clitoral head and the clitoral shaft via the clitoral hood and the front commissure.
So you just need to stimulate this area in circles, side-to-side and up and down.
Use your imagination… keeping in mind to avoid direct contact with the clitoris itself at the initial stage.
Don’t neglect to kiss your woman and caress her boobs and other sensitive areas
When stimulating the clitoral hood or front commissure with your fingers, don’t neglect to kiss your woman and caress her body…
…fondle her breast, suck on her nipples.
Even her inner thighs are also a good place to caress and suck on.
All these acts increase her pleasure and excitement and prime her for an orgasm faster.
Increase the pressure and the speed of your movements when your woman is getting more aroused and closer to orgasm
Pay attention to your girl or woman reaction and the sound she makes. As she gets more aroused, she will start to moan with pleasure, and you will notice her biting her lower lip… she will also tilt or push her pelvis upwards or hold you tight. When you notice these signs, increase the speed and pressure of your movements and keep going until she achieves an orgasm.
When you want to stimulate the exposed clitoris (or clitoral head) directly
As a woman gets highly aroused and approaches orgasm, the clitoris will increase in size and the clitoral hood will retract, revealing the clitoris (the clitoral head to be precise).
At this point, you can gently rub or stimulate the clitoral head directly…
…and of course, with a lubed or wet fingers. [Read how to find your woman’s clitoris to stimulate her to orgasms]
Hint: direct clitoral stimulation feels much better and pleasurable with a wet tongue.
After she achieves an orgasm…
…the clitoris will be extremely sensitive, and direct contact can cause pain and discomfort to the woman.
So, avoid directly touching the clitoris after your woman achieves a clitoral orgasm and switch back to stroking other parts of her genitals.
Here’s a trick: When your woman achieves the clitoral orgasm, place the pad of your finger firmly on the clitoral head… stay still and she will have back-to-back orgasms within that short period.
Afterward, take away your finger and stroke other parts of her vulva.
Giving a girl or a woman multiple clitoral orgasms with your fingers
Again, after a girl or a woman achieve a clitoral orgasm, her clitoris becomes hypersensitive… and stimulating it afterward might cause discomfort to her.
Your girl or woman will even push you away when you attempt to touch her genitals.
So this is what you do…
…keep her sexually excited by caressing other parts of her body.
Caress her inner thigh and vulva.
Graze your hands over her body, fondling her breast and nipples.
Fondle for at least 2 minutes…
…then come back to rubbing her clit again until she achieves another clitoral orgasm.
You can do this over and over again until she can’t take it anymore.
You can even move on to licking and sucking on her clit and bringing her to another intense clitoral orgasm… which takes us to ‘how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your tongue’.
So that is how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm and multiple clitoral orgasms with your fingers.
Let’s move on to how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your tongue (cunnilingus).
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How to Give a Girl or a Woman a Clitoral Orgasm With Your Tongue
Stimulating a woman’s clitoris with a warm, wet tongue can produce electric sensations in many ways that the finger can’t.
Tongue stroking is a powerful way to blow your woman’s mind and lead her to an intense clitoral orgasm…
…because the clitoris is extremely sensitive to touch and a warm, wet tongue feels much better and pleasurable than a finger.
Now let’s look at how to stimulate the clitoris with your mouth and tongue, or more precisely how to lick and suck on the clitoris.
How to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your tongue… the process
I have already covered how to stimulate the clitoris with your tongue in detail, but I will reiterate it here:
Start out by arousing her genitals
The whole genital area of a woman is wondrously sensitive… so tantalize your woman by kissing her inner thigh, inner and outer lips, and the little folds of skin adjoining her vulva softly before jumping onto her clitoris. Take your time to arouse the whole genital area. Tease her by alternating between licking her vulva a little bit and kissing and licking her inner thighs. Spend at least 2 minutes building up her arousal level before moving to the next step.
Slowly lick your woman from the top of the front commissure down to the clitoral hood to get her warmed up. Slowly kiss, suck and caress this area with the tip of your tongue and mouth to make her feel good and ready for what is to come.
Avoid going straight for her clitoris as usual, until she is amply aroused…
…instead, move your tongue in circles around the clitoral head
Draw circles around the clitoral head. Start slowly and gradually increase the speed and tongue pressure as you indirectly stimulate the clitoris with your tongue.
Lick the clitoral hood from side to side
Slowly lick the clitoral hood from side to side and gradually increase the speed and tongue pressure.
You can also lick in an “up and down” motion
This is another great technique which feels wonderful to some women. Lick the sides of the clitoral hood and front commissure in an ‘up and down’ motion, or lick over the clitoral hood and front commissure. Feel the clitoral shaft by pushing down on her commissure with the tip of your tongue and licking up and down.
Aside from the above three tongue strokes, you can also suck the clitoral hood into your mouth
This tongue technique is BEST performed when the woman is sufficiently aroused. Indirectly sucking on the clitoris too early might turn her off. So save this technique when she’s maximally turned on, and approaching orgasm. (Be careful not to suck too hard)
Understand this: The above tongue strokes can also be used directly on the clitoris. But make sure your tongue is wet and she’s highly aroused… and the pressure you apply on the clit should be soft and light.
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Pay attention to your woman body movements and her reactions and the noises she makes
If she is tilting her pelvis towards your mouth or holding your head tight against her pussy, slightly increase the speed and pressure of your tongue movements. If she seems to be shrinking away, then you’re doing it wrong… use a different approach.
As your woman gets sufficiently aroused, take her clitoral hood into your mouth and gently suck it in and out of your mouth…
…but strongly enough that her covered clitoris moves up and down along with your tongue movements. Don’t let go of it yet, try pushing it out with your tongue then draw it back in again. Use the tip of your tongue to lick around the clitoral hood in circles, side to side and up and down.
Now that your woman is amply aroused and ready for your tongue on her clit, give in and lick her in the way you know she likes it best.
Gently pull back the clitoral hood to expose her clitoris and use the tip of your tongue to slowly and gently draw circles around it. Stroke it up and down or flick it side to side and then apply more pressure and lick faster.
If your woman is getting more aroused, continue with the exact same pressure, speed, and motion (circles, side-to-side or up and down) until she achieves an orgasm
Don’t change anything, else she can lose her orgasm.
So that is how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your mouth and tongue.
Giving a girl or a woman multiple orgasms with your tongue
After she achieves her first clitoral orgasm, lightly blow on her clitoris to cool her off and wait 60 to 90 seconds before stimulating her again.
Let her cool down a little bit, but keep her aroused and sexually excited by focusing on kissing and caressing her inner thighs and other parts of her vulva besides her clitoris… take your focus to her labia (the labia majora and the labia minora), the vaginal opening, the perineum (extremely sensitive spot), and even the anal entrance. [Read the 12 hot spots to stimulate during oral sex]
You can even return to the activities of foreplay if you want to.
After keeping her sexualized and getting her clitoris to cool off, return to indirectly stimulating her clitoris and get ready for her next orgasm.
You can repeat this for as many times as you want and you are guaranteed to give a woman or a girl many clitoral orgasms as you desire.
So there you have it… how to give a girl or a woman multiple clitoral orgasms.
Any girl or woman can have multiple clitoral orgasms
Most men (and even women) have the notion that it’s impossible to give a woman multiple clitoral orgasms in a single session, due to the hypersensitivity of the clitoris after the first clitoral orgasm.
But truth is, you can give a woman multiple clitoral orgasms in the same clitoral stimulation session.
Unlike men, women genitals take longer to return to their normal state, at least five to ten minutes.
So it is possible to stimulate the clitoris again… and lead a woman or a girl to her second, third and more clitoral orgasms.
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Every woman is different
Remember, no one move will work on every woman. So know what your woman likes best and keep doing it.
Many women claim that the left side of their clitoris is the most sensational.
So observe your woman when she masturbates or stimulates herself.
This will help you know which side of her clitoris she likes rubbed or stimulated.
Also, experiment with different clitoral stimulation to see what she responds best to.
She will moan and tilt her genitals up when you’re doing it right.
If not, she’ll rather withdraw.
Some women prefer their clit stimulated light and gentle.
Whiles others prefer the stimulation to be harder, more definite and rhythmical… especially, when they get closer to orgasm.
The sensitivity of the clitoris varies between women…
…some find it pleasurable when the exposed clit is stimulated directly. For other,s they cannot bear even the slightest contact, particularly at the start of the cunnilingus session.
So you need to vary your stimulation techniques and figure out what your woman likes and where she likes it.
If you are not sure what she likes, grab her hand and place it on her clitoris, and ask her to show you how she likes it.
This way you can find out if she likes her clitoris stimulated on the left side or the right side. Or directly on the clitoris itself. And how much pressure to apply.
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You can also give your girl or woman a clitoral orgasm with a clitoral vibrator
Clitoral vibrators can be a fantastic way to stimulate your girl or woman’s clitoris… in order to give her an orgasm.
Here are some of the best clitoral vibrators that you can find on one of the top vibrator websites on the Internet.
#1 – Finger Vibrators:
These are perfect for clitoral stimulation during sex. Finger Vibrators are small, powerful, and non-intrusive. So they won’t disturb your woman’s experience or inhibit you from any positions.
#2 – The Magic Wand:
The best-selling and well-known vibrator on the market. Magic Wand Vibrators deliver intense multiple clitoral orgasms to its lucky users. Holding the vibe against the clitoris will produce wave after wave of climaxes.
#3 – Rabbits:
What makes Rabbit Vibrators unique is that they allow for simultaneous pleasuring. They offer vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation at the same time. Even if you want to spice up with a bit of anal play, the Triple Pleasure Rabbit is the sex toy for her.
#4 – Power Bullet Mini Vibrator:
The Power Bullet Mini Vibrator is sleek and small in size. Easy to conceal in the palm of your hand and small enough to keep in your pocket. Can tickle and tease all her erogenous zones. The quiet and intense motors of these vibrators hit the right spot.
And many more.
Now, let’s looks at how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm during sexual intercourse.
How to Give a Girl or a Woman a Clitoral Orgasm During Sexual Intercourse
There are two ways to go about this.
First, is allowing your woman to get on top of you (cowgirl style) and grind her clitoris against your pubic bone. And the second way is by rubbing your pubic bone against the clitoris when you’re on top, in the missionary sex position.
Let’s go into detail.
When she’s on top, cowgirl style
Instead of her moving up and down, encourage her to grind against your pubic bone.
This will provide enough friction against her clitoris and prime her for an orgasm sooner. [Read the simplest and best way to make your woman orgasm during sex]
When you’re on top, missionary position
Maintain contact with the clitoris, and instead of thrusting in and out of her, use your pubic bone to apply pressure on her clitoris.
Move your hips in a circular motion so that your pubic bone rubs against her clitoris.
Using your fingers
Now, that is how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm during sexual intercourse.
So there you have it – how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm and multiple clitoral orgasms.
You now know how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your fingers, how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm with your tongue, and how to give a girl or a woman a clitoral orgasm during sexual intercourse.
Plus, you know how to give a girl or a woman multiple clitoral orgasms.
The good news… once a girl or a woman achieve a clitoral orgasm, it will be much easier to give her vaginal orgasms and completely satisfy her in bed. [Read how to give your girl or woman a vaginal orgasm]
So take this newly acquired knowledge and add it to your sexual repertoire… and you are guaranteed to satisfy your woman every time you make love to her.
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