If your idea of having sex is just thrusting in and out of your woman in the hopes that she experiences an orgasm, then you’re taking a shot in the dark.
It behooves every man to know how to have sex… so that he can perform better and sexually please his woman in bed every single time.
Sex is one of the most important things in life. And it’s your MANLY duty in the bedroom to be better in bed and give your woman the sexual experience she deserves.
In this post, I share with you how to have sex with a woman.
You’ll also learn techniques and tricks to outlast your woman during sex… and get her to not only enjoy having sex with you but become sexually addicted to you.
Let’s get started.
How to Have Sex with Your Woman
#1 – Start sex from foreplay
Foreplay isn’t optional…
…it’s a necessity of sex.
Women NEED foreplay (and lots of it) to get warmed up and relaxed enough to start having sex.
Because foreplay increases their level of sexual excitement.
Foreplay also reduces women’s inhibitions (if any) and helps them reach orgasm much sooner.
You can’t just kiss your woman for a few minutes and expect her to enjoy having sex…
…not to mention, orgasm.
You need to get her highly aroused and excited first before actual penile penetrative sex begins.
A woman’s entire body, from head to toe, is one big erogenous zone. So, instead of jumping to sex right away, take your time to explore every inch of your woman’s body. [Discover The 17 Pleasure Spots Your Woman Desperately Wants You to Touch!]
Kiss her passionately… suck and caress her hot spots, including her ears, neck, lower back, breast, nipples, etc.
Drag-out foreplay as long as you can
Don’t make the mistakes most guys make by jumping into sex too soon… that is before your woman is SEXUALLY ready.
Keep in mind that women’s sexuality operates differently than men’s.
Watching that awesome view of a naked female’s body gives us a hard-on and furthers our excitement.
We are ready to mount and thrust right away and get off at a moment’s notice.
But a woman is different.
A woman needs to be stimulated properly to get her blood flowing and ready for the sex and the orgasms to come.
So make sure your woman is fully aroused before you start having sex with her. Else it will take her longer to achieve an orgasm. Not to mention, enjoy the sex.
So before you have intercourse with your woman, drag-out foreplay as long as you can!
Hint: Spend at least 20 minutes on foreplay. And once she’s highly aroused, you’ll have no problem bringing her to an orgasm.
Understand: A woman can have breast orgasms from just touching her boobs and nipples in the right way.
#2 – Have your woman blow you before actual penetration (optional)
This is important especially if you have a problem lasting longer during sex.
This way you get to relax and allow your mind and body to get accustomed to the level of arousal. So that when you start having sex you’re not going to blow your load sooner than you’d want.
Plus, if you do blow your load during fellatio, further stimulation of your penis (fellatio) will help you achieve another erection in a few minutes. And you’re going to last longer when you start having sex.
Read More: How Foreplay Can Increase Your Time in Bed
#3 – Give your woman a clitoral orgasm before you start having sex
Personally, the best time to have sex with your woman is after she has experienced a clitoral orgasm via oral sex or masturbation.
Because, by achieving a clitoral orgasm, she will be fully aroused and more orgasmic during actual intercourse. And therefore, can easily experience another orgasm (possibly a vaginal orgasm) sooner. [Read ‘How to Stimulate the Clitoris’ and ‘How to Give a Girl or a Woman a Clitoral Orgasm’]
So now that she’s dripping wet with her own juices after the heavy foreplay, go down on her and give her a clitoral orgasm. (Read how to become masterfully at giving your oral sex and driving her crazy with your mouth, your lips, and your tongue.)
Now, here’s the problem though…
Most women are self-conscious.
They’re not comfortable with a guy seeing, tasting and smelling them down there. So she might not be receptive… with your face between her legs.
To break this barrier, take a shower together beforehand. It will make her feel fresher and more comfortable with her body.
And while at it, you can even turn her on and get her sexually excited by stroking her genitals with a soapy hand.
Hint: After giving your woman a clitoral orgasm, finger her to a vaginal orgasm. [Read how to finger your woman]
#4 – Take your time during intercourse
After giving your woman a clitoral orgasm via oral sex or with your fingers if you so wish, and perhaps fingering her to a vaginal orgasm, start having sex.
Don’t rush it, take your time.
You want your woman to get accustomed to the feeling of having you inside her…
…so slowly penetrate her and give her some few minutes to really start feeling you inside her. And then build a nice rhythm.
As the sex progresses, she’ll prefer a fast rhythm… especially when she’s nearing an orgasm.
#5 – Not all sexual postures will get a woman off
Sure, it will feel good for your woman when your penis is gliding back and forth inside her. But this motion alone probably won’t increase her arousal level to the point where she will climax.
The most sensitive area in the vagina that will make a woman climax is on the front vaginal wall… about 1-2 inches.
This area is wondrously sensitive because this is where the G-spot is.
The G-spot triggers intense orgasms, and possibly ejaculation (female ejaculation a.k.a. squirting) when fully aroused and stimulated.
So, when having sex, adopt positions that will make it easier for you to rub against the G-spot.
In other words, angle your ‘soldier’ so that ‘he’ is pointing towards your woman’s belly button. And as you thrust back and forth, you’ll be rubbing against her orgasmic spot and she’ll be climaxing in no time. [Read ‘How to Hit the G-spot During Sex’ and ‘How to Give Your Woman a G-Spot Orgasm’]
#6 – There’s another orgasm spot deep inside a woman’s love tunnel…
…known as the A-spot, this orgasm spot is also located deep inside the vagina on the front wall. About 3-4 inches near the cervix.
Stimulating or hitting this spot with your penis head will give your woman a powerful orgasm in only 1-2 minutes. Plus, it will get her juice flowing and get her more lubricated in as little as 5-10 seconds. [Read ‘How to Hit the A-Spot During Vaginal Intercourse’ and ‘How to Give Your Woman an A-spot Orgasm’]
So, when you’re thrusting deep, concentrate on hitting this orgasmic spot.
Keep Reading: How to Give Your Woman a Vaginal Orgasm
#7 – Constant clitoral stimulation is required during sex
Though your woman might orgasm via penetrative sex alone, constant clitoral stimulation is required to intensify her sexual pleasure and trigger an orgasm.
The clitoris is the powerhouse of pleasure… and stimulating it during sex will cause your woman to have orgasms consistently.
As you’re performing deep penetration when you’re on top during the sex (the missionary position), press your pubic bone against her clitoris and rub against it in a circular motion…
…this will provide enough friction against her clitoris and prime her for an orgasm.
You can also pull out during sex and go down on your woman (cunnilingus).
Understand: ALWAYS use lots of lubrication or saliva when stimulating the clitoris.
#8 – Don’t neglect a woman’s erogenous zones
Never stop sucking and caressing your woman’s erogenous zones during intercourse.
Just because you’re enjoying yourself down there doesn’t mean you should stop paying attention to your woman’s body…
…don’t stop kissing her neck, massaging her thighs and buttocks, sucking on her nipples, etc.
#9 – Lady’s first, gentleman
As with a chivalrous custom, “ladies first”, the same is true when it comes to satisfying a woman during sex.
Women crave vaginal orgasms… the one they get from penetration.
So, to ensure your woman reaches orgasm from penetration, you need to have total control of your penis…
…in other words, delay your orgasm until after your woman has achieved hers.
Delaying your orgasm in itself will build up your sexual tension and desire. And when you eventually ejaculate, it will undoubtedly lead to a longer, stronger, and explosive orgasm.
This can be a little bit difficult, especially when you suffer from premature ejaculation.
So, it is important you slow down when you feel like you’re about to ejaculate. Else your woman may never get the chance to reach an orgasm.
(If you suffer from premature ejaculation or you blow your load sooner than you want, I strongly recommend you check out these two resources: ‘Ejaculation by Command’ and ‘Extreme Stamina’. It will be of TREMENDOUS help to your sex life.)
#10 – If you can’t last longer, finger your woman to vaginal orgasms
Again, as mentioned earlier, the G-spot is along the upper wall of the vagina… about 1-2 inches past her vaginal opening.
If you feel like you’re about to ejaculate before your woman has achieved her orgasm, pull out and stimulate the G-spot or A-spot with your finger. [Read ‘How to Stimulate the G-Spot’ and ‘How to Stimulate the A-Spot’. Also, read ‘How to Finger Your Woman to an Orgasm’]
#11 – A woman can have multiple orgasms and it will make her sexually addicted to you
A woman, so unique in her sexuality, has the ability to experience more than one orgasm in a single sex session.
Unlike men, women don’t need a refractory period… so they’re able to stay aroused for longer after an orgasm. And climax again and again with little effort.
Once a woman is in the orgasmic state, her body will naturally want to have another orgasm and then another.
So when your woman orgasms, stay inside her and let her catch her breath.
While at it, keep her sexualized by focusing your attention on her erogenous zones… like sucking and caressing her breasts, nipples and other hot spots.
After this brief interval, return to having sex and get ready for her next orgasm.
Give it to her hard and fast and drive her to orgasms after orgasms.
#12 – Don’t change position if you can tell your woman is about to orgasm
…wait until she has the orgasm, then change to whatever position you desire.
Constantly changing sex position too much can cause your woman to lose the ‘build up’ to her orgasm.
And that means it will take her longer to reach climax.
So take confidence in that fact that just one position can bring your woman to an orgasm (and even multiple orgasms).
So there you have it… how to have sex with your woman.
You CAN’T learn how to have sex from porn
If you’re looking to learn how to have sex with your woman and give her an orgasm alongside, porn movies are not the right place to do it.
The only reason porn exists is so that men can masturbate to it.
As simple as that…
Personally, it’s a made-up fantasy story. And it’s not how real love making looks like.
So if you think you can learn how to have sex with your woman and become a better lover by replicating the moves you see in porn… you are dead wrong!
Let’s recap: How to have sex
- A woman needs foreplay to get warmed up and relaxed enough to start having sex. So start sex from foreplay and spend at least 20 minutes to get your woman sexually aroused before you start having sex with her.
- Have her give you a BJ to help you relax and get accustomed to the level of arousal so that you don’t blow your load early.
- After the heavy foreplay, go down on your woman and give her a clitoral orgasm before you start having sex.
- After giving your woman a clitoral orgasm via cunnilingus, you can also give her a vaginal orgasm using your finger… here you stimulate her G-spot until she orgasms, then afterward stimulate her A-spot until she comes again.
- Next, penetrate her slowly – taking a full minute to enter her – and give it to her nice and slow.
- When having sex, adopt positions that will make it easier for you to rub against the G-spot and the A-spot… this way it will be easier to give her vaginal orgasms (both G-spot orgasms and A-spot orgasms) with your penis.
- Don’t neglect your woman’s erogenous zones or hot spots such as her nipples and most especially her clitoris when having sex… fondle and stimulate these hot spots as you make love to her. This will intensify her sexual pleasure and make her orgasm consistently.
- Strive to give your woman multiple orgasms… this will make her sexually addicted to you and literally beg you for sex.
- Don’t change positions if you can tell your woman is about to orgasm.
- WARNING: You can’t learn how to have sex by watching porn. Pornographic movies only exist so that you can masturbate to it.
Now, this’s how to have sex.
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