“Learn everything you can about the clitoris or how to stimulate the clitoris, as it is an important trigger for a woman’s pleasure.”
Want to please your woman and give her orgasms every time you make love to her? Then know how to stimulate the clitoris.
Ask any woman to pleasure herself, and she is likely to concentrate on her clitoris.
The clitoris, more accurately the clitoral head, has over 8,000 sensitive nerve endings. And unlike the penis, it is there for only one purpose… to give a woman sexual pleasure.
Almost all sexually active women prefer oral sex (cunnilingus) to actual sexual intercourse because they claim it is the only way they can reach orgasm. [Read the 3 bedroom stats you need to know about women]
Now, imagine if you could use just some few simple techniques to stroke the clitoris and drive your woman wild with pleasure. Wouldn’t that alone boost your sexual confidence?
Well… in this post, I share with you how to stimulate the clitoris to give your woman the sexual pleasure she craves, and ultimately give her a clitoral orgasm.
This is a complete guide on how to stimulate the clitoris…
…so you’re going to learn how to stimulate the clitoris using your fingers and also using your mouth and tongue. You will also learn how to stimulate the clitoris during sexual intercourse in order to intensify your woman’s pleasure.
Plus, I also share with you five of the best clitoral vibrators to stimulate the clitoris.
With that said, let’s get started…
About the clitoris
Many men don’t know WHAT and WHERE the clitoris is… so let’s start by clarifying this little nugget of knowledge.
If your woman was to lie on her back, with her legs open wide, her clitoris would be above the vagina opening.
Usually, the clitoris will be under a foreskin, known as the clitoral hood. This is because the clitoris is EXTREMELY SENSITIVE, and the hood protects it from direct contact and over-stimulation.
The clitoris is the little pink, teeny-weeny cock, that hides beneath the clitoral hood. [Read how to find your woman’s clitoris to stimulate her to orgasms]
The image below will help you to visualize exactly where the clitoris is and the areas to stroke or stimulate:
Before you go down south…
…make sure your woman is fully aroused by way of spending ample amount of time on foreplay…
…this will get more blood to rush to her genitals, making the stroking and stimulation more pleasurable for her.
So start by french-kissing her.
Kiss her neck and earlobes.
Touch and caress her breast and nipples. (Do it right and she can have breast orgasms)
Move down to her stomach and lavish her body.
Kiss and caress her inner thighs.
And whiles you are down there, tease her… that is alternate between licking her vulva a little bit, and caressing her inner thighs.
Spend at least 20 minutes on foreplay before jumping right onto her clitoris.
With that said, let’s get started on how to stimulate the clitoris… first, we look at how to stimulate the clitoris using your fingers.
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How to Stimulate the Clitoris with Your Fingers
Have your woman lie on her back with her legs open. You can put a pillow beneath her butt to elevate her hips to give you better access to her clitoris.
Moisten your fingers with a lubricant. If you don’t have a lubricant around, just lick your finger.
Aim your strokes and stimulation on the clitoral hood and the front commissure (the area just above the clitoral head). This alone is enough to give your woman the excitement and pleasure she needs to achieve an orgasm.
…so start out by stroking the front commissure in circles, side to side, or up and down. Since the clitoris itself is extremely sensitive, the front commissure is a great place to start. Rub against the clitoral shaft hidden underneath the front commissure in circles, side to side, or up and down. This will increase your woman excitement and consequently prime her for orgasm.
Stroke slowly and gently unless she asks otherwise. The stroking should be slow and gentle at first. Use light pressure and a moderate speed, and then gradually increase the pressure and speed as she gets more aroused and closer to orgasm.
Avoid direct contact with the clitoris for now
The clitoris is extremely sensitive and touching it too soon might cause your woman some discomfort.
Even the slightest contact can turn your woman off.
So indirectly rub (or stroke) the clitoral hood and the front commissure against the clitoris… and only stroke the exposed clitoris when your woman is maximally turned on or close to orgasm.
Again, stroking the clitoral hood and the front commissure alone is enough to give your woman the excitement and pleasure she needs to achieve an orgasm.
Run your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress her clitoral hood. Use two fingers, preferably, your middle and index fingers to move the clitoral hood up and down over the clitoris, gently squeezing the clitoris. The friction created when the hood rubs against the clitoris (or clitoral head) is a powerful source of stimulation and pleasure.
Now, come back to stroking the front commissure against the clitoral shaft.
all in all, what you’re doing is stroking or stimulating the hidden clitoral head and the clitoral shaft via the clitoral hood and the front commissure.
So you just need to stimulate this area in circles, side-to-side and up and down.
Don’t neglect to kiss your woman and caress her boobs and other sensitive areas
When stimulating your woman’s clitoral hood or front commissure, don’t neglect to kiss her and caress other sensitive areas…
…fondle her breast, suck on her nipples.
Even her inner thighs are also a good place to caress and suck on.
All these acts increase her pleasure and excitement.
Increase the pressure and the speed of your movements when your woman is getting more aroused and closer to orgasm. Pay attention to her body movements and reactions, and the sound she makes. As she gets more aroused, she will start to moan with pleasure, and you will notice her biting her lower lip… she will also tilt or push her pelvis upwards or hold you tight. When you notice these signs, increase the speed and pressure of your movements and keep going until she experiences an orgasm.
When you want to stimulate the exposed clitoris (or clitoral head) directly
As a woman gets highly aroused and approaches orgasm, the clitoris will increase in size and the clitoral hood will retract, revealing the clitoris (the clitoral head).
At this point, you can gently stroke and rub the clitoral head directly…
…and of course, with a lubed or wet fingers.
When your woman is pushing up her pelvis or grinding against your fingers, increase the speed and pressure of your movements and keep going until she experiences an orgasm.
After the orgasm, the clitoris will be extremely sensitive, and direct contact can cause pain and discomfort to your woman…
…so avoid directly touching the clitoris after your woman experiences a clitoral orgasm and switch back to stimulating other parts of her genitals.
Here’s a trick: When your woman experiences the clitoral orgasm, place the pad of your finger firmly on the clitoral head… stay still and she will have back-to-back orgasms within that short period.
Next, we look at how to stimulate the clitoris with your mouth and tongue, or more precisely how to lick and suck on the clitoris.
Let’s get started.
How to Lick and Suck On the Clitoris
Stimulating a woman’s clitoris with a warm, wet tongue can produce electric sensations in many ways that the finger can’t.
Tongue stroking is a powerful way to blow your woman’s mind and lead her to an intense clitoral orgasm…
…because the clitoris is extremely sensitive to touch and a warm, wet tongue feels much better than a finger.
Now let’s look at how to stimulate the clitoris with your mouth and tongue, or more precisely how to lick and suck on the clitoris.
Start slow. Slowly lick your woman from the top of the front commissure down to the clitoral hood to get her warmed up. Slowly kiss, suck and caress this area with the tip of your tongue and mouth to make her feel good and ready for what is to come.
Avoid going straight for her clitoris as usual, until she is amply aroused…
…instead, move your tongue in circles around the clitoral head. Draw circles around the clitoral head. Start slowly and gradually increase the speed and tongue pressure as you indirectly stimulate the clitoris.
Lick the clitoral hood from side to side. Slowly lick the clitoral hood from side to side and gradually increase the speed and tongue pressure.
You can also lick in an “up and down” motion. This is another great technique which feels wonderful to some women. Lick the sides of the clitoral hood and front commissure in an ‘up and down’ motion, or lick over the clitoral hood and front commissure. Feel the clitoral shaft by pushing down on her commissure with the tip of your tongue and licking up and down.
Aside from the above three tongue strokes, you can also suck the clitoral hood into your mouth. This tongue technique is BEST performed when the woman is sufficiently aroused. Indirectly sucking on the clitoris too early might turn her off. So save this technique when she’s maximally turned-on and approaching orgasm. (Be careful not to suck too hard)
Understand this: The above tongue strokes can also be used directly on the clitoris. But make sure your tongue is wet and she’s highly aroused, and the pressure you apply on the clit should be soft and light.
Pay attention to your woman’s body movements and her reactions and the noises she makes. If she is tilting her pelvis towards your mouth or holding your head tight against her pussy, slightly increase the speed and pressure of your tongue movements. If she seems to be shrinking away, then you’re doing things wrong… use a different approach.
As your woman gets sufficiently aroused, take her clitoral hood into your mouth and gently suck it in and out of your mouth… but strong enough that her covered clitoris moves up and down along with your tongue movements. Don’t let go of it yet, try pushing it out with your tongue then draw it back in again. Use the tip of your tongue to lick around the clitoral hood in circles, side to side and up and down.
Now that your woman is amply aroused and ready for your tongue on her clit, give in and lick her in the way you know she likes it best. Gently pull back the clitoral hood to expose her clitoris and use the tip of your tongue to SLOWLY AND GENTLY draw circles around it. Stroke it up and down or flick it side to side and then apply more pressure and lick faster.
If your woman is getting more aroused, continue with the exact same pressure, speed, and motion (circles, side-to-side or up and down) until she experiences an orgasm. Don’t change anything, else she can lose her orgasm.
Every woman is different
Remember, no one move will work on every woman. So know what your woman likes best and keep doing it.
Many women claim that the area to the right of their clitoris is the most sensational.
So observe your woman when she masturbates or stimulates herself.
This will help you know which side of her clitoris she likes stroked or stimulated.
Also, experiment with different clitoral stimulation to see what she responds best to.
She will moan and tilt her genitals up when you’re doing it right.
If not, she’ll rather withdraw.
Some women prefer their clit stimulated light and gentle.
Whiles others prefer the stimulation to be harder, more definite and rhythmical… especially, when they get closer to orgasm.
The sensitivity of the clitoris varies between women…
…some find it pleasurable when the exposed clit is stimulated directly. For others, they cannot bear even the slightest contact, particularly at the start of the cunnilingus session.
So you need to vary your stimulation techniques and figure out what your woman likes and where she likes it.
If you are not sure what she likes, grab her hand and place it on her clitoris, and ask her to show you how she likes it.
This way you can find out if she likes her clitoris stimulated on the left side or the right side. Or directly on the clitoris itself. And how much pressure to apply.
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You can stimulate the clitoris with a clitoral vibrator
Clitoral vibrators can be a fantastic way to stimulate your woman’s clitoris.
They also give your tongue and fingers a break.
Here are some of the best clitoral vibrators that you can find on one of the top vibrator websites on the Internet. www.adameve.com.
Finger Vibrators: These are perfect for clitoral stimulation during sex. Finger Vibrators are small, powerful, and non-intrusive. So they won’t disturb your woman’s experience or inhibit you from any positions.
The Magic Wand: The best-selling and well-known vibrator on the market. Magic Wand Vibrators deliver intense multiple clitoral orgasms to its lucky users. Holding the vibe against the clitoris will produce wave after wave of climaxes.
Rabbits: What makes Rabbit Vibrators unique is that they allow for simultaneous pleasuring. They offer vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation at the same time. Even if you want to spice up with a bit of anal play, the Triple Pleasure Rabbit is the sex toy for her.
Power Bullet Mini Vibrator: The Power Bullet Mini Vibrator is sleek and small in size. Easy to conceal in the palm of your hand and small enough to keep in your pocket. Can tickle and tease all her erogenous zones. The quiet and intense motors of these vibrators hit the right spot.
And many more.
Now, let’s looks at how to stimulate the clitoris during sexual intercourse.
How to Stimulate the Clitoris During Sexual Intercourse
There are two ways to go about this.
First, is allowing your woman to grind her clitoris against your pubic bone when she’s on top. And the second way is by rubbing your pubic bone against the clitoris when you’re on top.
When she’s on top, cowgirl style…
…instead of moving up and down encourage her to grind against your pubic bone.
This will provide enough friction against her clitoris and prime her for orgasm sooner.
When you’re on top, missionary position…
…maintain contact with the clitoris, and instead of thrusting in and out of her, use your pubic bone to apply pressure on her clitoris.
Move your hips in a circular motion so that your pubic bone rubs against her clitoris.
So there you have it – how to stimulate the clitoris using your fingers, your mouth and tongue, and during sexual intercourse.
No one move will work on every woman, so experiment with different tongue techniques and learn what she responds best to.
There are so many different tongue techniques you can use, so get creative… follow your instincts… use your imagination… make up your own moves, and give your woman the clitoral orgasms she craves.
Go down on your woman every time you make love her and put what you learn here into action, and she will be out of her mind with pleasure. [Read what lesbians can teach us about sex]
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