The start-stop technique a.k.a. the start-stop method (or the start and stop technique), as the name implies, involves starting sex as usual but stopping (or halting) when you feel you’re about to ejaculate sooner than you would want to.
In this article, I share with you how to use the start and stop technique (or start and stop method) to delay ejaculation and prolong intercourse.
Plus, you’ll also learn two other tricks to use together with the start and stop method to delay ejaculation and make sex last.
Let’s get started.
How to last longer during sex with the start and stop technique
When you’re having sex and you feel like you’re about to ejaculate sooner than you would want to, stop thrusting and wait for the sensation to subside… then resume intercourse.
Make sure you completely relax your body when you stop thrusting… and take in deep breaths to slow your heart rate.
These are the steps:
- Stop stimulation when you’re getting close to ejaculate
- Completely relax your body
- Take in deep breaths – breathe deeply and slowly into your belly and throughout your mouth.
- When you feel you’re ready to thrust again, you can resume
You can do this as many times as you want until you decide you want to end the sexual encounter.
Don’t leave it too late else you’ll not be able to hold back your ejaculation.
Practicing the start-stop technique on your own or with your woman
You can use masturbation to perfect the stop and start technique or let your partner stimulate you.
You can use masturbation as an exercise in the sense that you would want to know when you have to stop intercourse and when to start thrusting again.
It’s not highly recommended to practice with masturbation, though… you can even practice during actual sex.
If you want to practice with masturbation on your own or with your partner, this is what you do:
- Start stimulating or let your partner stimulate your penis (using either a dry hand or lube) or let her stimulate you orally – fellatio (blow job)
- As soon as stimulation gets too intense and you feel like you’re about to ejaculate, stop or ask her to stop
- Relax your body and ejaculatory muscle (a.k.a. the PC muscle), and take in slow deep breaths
- Wait until your arousal drops, then resume stimulation again
- Repeat step 1 to 4 for about 15 minutes before letting yourself go
This stop-start technique or exercise will help you become more conscious about your sexual stimulation and more importantly, how you can control your excitement and last longer during sex.
And once you master this start-stop technique or start-stop method, you’ll be in a better position to develop greater ejaculatory control and last longer during sex.
Does the technique work?
Many guys swear by the stop and start method (or the stop-start method).
Stopping all form of stimulation when you’re about to explode will ensure that you don’t ejaculate sooner than you would want to.
But of course, combining the stop-start technique (or the stop-start method) with other effective techniques will make it easier for you to delay ejaculation and last longer in bed.
The stop-start technique together with the squeeze works very well
Combining the start-stop technique with the Squeeze Technique pioneered by Masters and Johnson will give you better ejaculatory control and help you last a lot longer.
For instance, when you’re having sex and you feel like you’re about to explode, stop… pull out and squeeze the head of your penis…
…place your thumb on the head of your penis (on the coronal ridge), and your forefinger behind the penis head (on the frenulum) and gently apply pressure against the urethra – the tube that carries semen out of the penis.
When you feel the urge to ejaculate has subsided you can resume intercourse.
Stopping altogether wouldn’t be a good idea
Instead of stopping stimulation or intercourse and waiting for your arousal to subside, why not pull out and give your woman oral sex.
Going down on your woman as a measure to delay ejaculation and last longer is crucial because when your partner is enjoying the sexual experience and/or is getting close to climax, you don’t want to stop stimulating her altogether.
You can stop stimulation to bring down your arousal… but continue giving her pleasure via oral sex to prime her for an orgasm.
Heck, you can even finger her to a powerful vaginal orgasm. [Read how to finger your woman to an orgasm]
Using the stop-start technique (or the stop-start method) when having sex will make sex last longer… and your partner will reach an orgasm before you do.
Combine the stop and start technique with specifically the squeeze technique and oral sex… and you should make some solid progress during intercourse.
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